WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:03pm
Thank God for that.
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:04pm

When five year olds are playing together, 9 times out of 10 they can solve the problem on their own. I usually back off and observe. Voila...they solved it themselves. If need be I will intervene. Kids this age need to learn problem solving skills on a social level. If you jump in everytime you hear "give me that car back" " that's mine" and so on you are depriving them of neccessary problem solving skills.

If two 5 year olds are unable to play together for any length of time without parents getting constantly involved then they haven't learned those skills and are rely WAY too much on the parents to solve them.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:04pm
I wasn't talking about their sleep schedule in that post. I was talking about their utter inability to behave themselves for five straight minutes without you needing to intervene and discipline them for something. Which you have stated is a fact at least twice.
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:06pm
It doesn't mean she can't hear them.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:08pm

Oh, I don't

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:10pm
I already clarified this post. When you make up your mind whether it's a horrible thing if a 5 YO child breaks something on purpose, which yes, I feel is outside the pale of what should be happening and should be well within the control of said 5 YO even without Mom leaning over his shoulder, feel free to ask again.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:13pm

Mine would have slept in the stroller/pack n play on the beach in the shade or while sight seeing

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:13pm

Happy Birthday Felicia!!

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:16pm

When my son broke his arm I was literally standing 3 feet from him. Literally. There was nothing I could do to prevent it as it happened so fast. No one could have. You just can't prevent *everything*. I mean really. What am I going to do when the kids come over. Stand over them like a referee at a wrestling match ready to pull back the offending party at just the precise moment that broken limb or stitch causing injury is going to occur? I have spent countless hours observing 3 year old, 4 year olds and now 5 year olds together and there is absolutely no reason to believe that these children can not play together without a trip to the ER, much less a trip to the bathroom for neoporin and a bandage.

I know it for a fact because I saw it and still see it on a weekly basis.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:19pm

My kids have attended (they were invited, btw)

PumpkinAngel

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