WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:20pm

Slacker?


Laid back, I would buy.....but slacker?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:21pm

What about during recess?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:22pm
Well, you get a Medal of Honor for posting that today. High risk of getting flamed for forcing your kids to take a nap past the age of 2. What are you doing, forcing your agenda on them or something? Denying them the chance to grow up to be fully functioning adults? And what is up with your kids that they need so much sleep? They don't actually need it, you know..... okay, I'm done ranting now LOL.
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:23pm

But it's not so much an opinion as much as a *fact* that 3 and 5 year olds *are* perfectly capable of playing contently and happily for far longer than a 10 minute stretch.

Try letting them do some problem solving on their own and you will be pleasantly surprised at how much more they are capable of than what you give them credit for. Alot of times when parents are soooooo ready to jump in at any squabble, they come to rely on the parent for the problem solving rather than themselves.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:26pm

I don't think you give children in general enough credit for adjusting.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:27pm
Right on the money. You've got to remember, though, that the notion we're facing here is that children ARE hideously behaved unless watched like hawks, and the mere thought that a child MIGHT interfere with a social occasion is enough to ruin said social occasion.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:29pm
The only person who has needed stitches in my family in the past
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:30pm

Most of the accidents, stitches and one broken bone have occurred while being supervised by a parent or other adult.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:32pm

Perhaps it isn't an attack, just an observation based on information you've provided here. Perhaps it is even meant to help you.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:33pm
No hills to die on means not doing anything so stupid as to involve an adult arguing with a toddler. You're the adult. That is supposed to mean that there already exists sufficient discipline so that there is no need to argue with said toddler.

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