WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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I think the problemsolving issue is the crux of this debate. I hit on this in one of my other posts. I think because LTB and PJM are *so* quick to intervene that it causes the 10 minute cycle of destruction and potential broken bones. Not to mention the kids get wanted attention and an audience for their problems.
I learned this early on when I was regularly watching my friends 2 kids along with mine. (they are all the same age. Now all 5yo). When I first started watching them, when they were 3, I used to jump at the first sign of distress just so I wouldn't have to hear it. But then I discovered if I was too late getting there, it was usually resolved on its own. So I just started delaying my reaction and started telling them if they didn't cooperate with each other and figure out a way to play nicely they couldn't play together or I would take offending item away. Worked like a charm. Funny how threatening to seperate two arguing children will bring them closer together.
Kids need to deal with it on their own. When the parent gets involved it's sometimes justs adds fuel to the fire, not to mention it is depriving them of crucial social problem solving skills.
(posited because my brother's girlfriend wants to marry him but doesn't know if she can handle So Cal life living in a condo, and taking her son away from his father and her family
Mondo
You do have a point there.
PumpkinAngel
Mondo
My boys would love that.
PumpkinAngel
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