WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:24am
Yes, indeed I do.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:25am
I need more sleep to function at work than I do at home.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:39am

"Even if the dog is in the same room with them...and he is awake?" I sincerely hope you are kidding. It is much MORE dangerous to have a dog and a toddler in a room together and not be paying attention.

I just don't know how one can talk about the possibility of getting woken up once or even twice in the middle of the night, even if you're prone to being awake for 40 minutes after each episode, as causing "sleep deprivation." To me, that's grossly trivializing what sleep deprivation is. If that's all it takes, I've been sleep deprived for years and years and years, since well before DS was born, and I certainly didn't have any problem holding down my job then. "It's all pretty bad and must reach desperation levels when it goes on for years and years." Do you know anyone, Felicia included, who has had desperation level sleep deprivation for years and years? Me neither.




Edited 5/25/2005 9:52 am ET ET by dogma_2
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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:45am
Considerably MORE physical effort involved in child care than in attorney work, as far as I can see. Not as much mental work. It was an extremely rare day, however, where I needed to be at mental top speed every hour of the workday, and an even rarer day where a feeling of grogginess lasted the entire day, no matter how little sleep I had had.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:48am

So your contention is that you have more need to be rested to do childcare than to work in an office?

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:48am
When your child is ill or injured, soothing your own anxiety comes to mind as a primary, and ineffective, goal of prayer?
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:56am
Not at all. My contention is that virtually no one is going to reach a level of "sleep deprivation" sufficient to harm his or her ability to work from having a child come into his or her room nightly, whether it was for an "emergency" or not. Even if it happens every night for three weeks straight.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:56am

Umm, I thought I was being perfectly clear.

I would think some people would want to know about any danger, emergency, medical issue with their children (even if they can't be there to help) so they can pray for their child's safety and health.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 10:07am
I do, (listed earlier in this thread).
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 10:11am
Sorry, DH and I are both sick and I didn't get enough sleep last night...

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