WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:30pm
20 years, lost to sleep deprivation?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:30pm

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I so agree with this.

<<(If I were truly obsessed about the quality of my sex life, I probably wouldn't have been thrilled at letting three nine-pound, huge-cranium babies come barreling down my vagina. I would have had four C-sections!)>>

But I'm not so sure about this ;-) Two years after my most recent c-section, that incision is still a little tender!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:33pm
I tend to see life in stages, and it's difficult for me to imagine enjoying any stage more than I do this one. Even if I could, I doubt that I would describe it as 20 years of my life "gone."
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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:33pm
20 years roughly of having children at home.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:36pm
Snuggling together at night with my kids or even my DH doesn't enhance my relationship with any of them.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:37pm

And? 20 years of your life are going to pass with or without children, and then 20 more, and so on. Its not like your life is suddenly completely your own once they are grown either. Nor does that 20 years mean 20 years of intense caretaking like with an infant or small child.


You make it sound like those are 20 *wasted* years. Are your children that much of a burden to you?


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:41pm

"Its not like your life is suddenly completely your own once they are grown either."


Of course it will be completely my own!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:47pm
I wasn't suggesting that you should, but I do think that your apparent eagerness to have your children grown and out of the nest is rather sad, and I think your assumption that you won't have any worries or responsibilities wrt them at that point seems a bit naive.
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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:52pm

I like to think that when we

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:54pm

Do you resent having to share your time now?


PumpkinAngel

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