WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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Why?
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So you plan to basically cut them out of your life once they are grown? Not be involved with your grandchildren? Not live near enough to visit and spend time with them? You'll pack up and take long trips without letting them know where you are? You will no longer worry about their wellbeing, their happiness or their lives in general? They become aquaintances???
I'll miss my children when they are no longer living at home. I dont see life *infinitely* easier with grown children. Maybe less $ spent, less time involved, and a bit less interesting. But I wouldnt say easier.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Since I reached 18, my mother has supported me through:
1. a nervous breakdown
2. an unplanned pregnancy
3. the death of a husband
4. The birth of two children
She has supported my sister through:
1. Losing two babies due to genetic abnormalities
2. Birth of two babies
3. moves she did not want (but her DH did)
4. A painful, chronic illness
&nbs
Dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
So you plan to basically cut them out of your life once they are grown?
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I don't *expect* to have any day to day responsibilities wrt them, but sh#t happens, so to speak. My brother is 35 yo and still lives with my mother. He suffered a severe brain injury in an accident when he was 14. He is unable to drive (due to a risk of seizures and his general maturity level), so she spends quite a lot of time carting him around (too much, imo, but that's another story ;-). I'm quite sure that my mom did not expect to have the level of responsibility for him that she does at this age. That may be a rather extreme example, but other issues can come up as well.
You just sound like you're in such a hurry to get this kid thing over with.
Edited 5/25/2005 4:18 pm ET ET by jfp2000
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