WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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'My ds just turned 6 and he goes to bed between 915-945. He gets up on his own by 730 every morning. He has just never needed a whole lot of sleep.'
Holy, I guess not. I could sleep longer than that each night.
Even when he was
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Wow. Having a child who goes to bed that early would really put a lot of restrictions on our family life. Our nine-year-old has baseball games that start at 7 pm.
I dunno...I guess for me it's the huge disconnect between the desire so deep to HAVE children and the complete lack of evidence of pleasure IN them.
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
What's true for you is not necessarily true for me and vice versa, obviously. I think it's great (really!) when a mother or father really feels inspired and invigorated by parenting (like yourself or suzymomm for example). I've learned a lot about attitude from the both of you and a lot of other posters on this board.
"or at least sound like she does"
I think that is exactly it. I don't think she writes about motherhood the way other people expect/want her to. I don't think she enumerates everything she loves about being a mom in all her posts. I don't think that means she doesn't enoy it...it's simply not her style. Maybe she's the kind of person who believes that the disclaimer of "but of course I love being a parent" is understood without it having to be spelled out all the time.
For example, if you go back on this thread you will see many versions of "of course there were times when my kids made me want to run away BUT they are great/I love being a parent/my children are everything to me/I will treasure this time always"
You say it yourself here "yet, with all the cards stacked against the situation, and there *have* been good times, the joy of parenting I've experienced outweighs them many many times over." There is that disclaimer again. I do it all the time!!
I think (and I could be wrong) that she is the kind of person who doesn't feel it is necessary to include the disclaimer all the time. Her direct and straightforward style is to say "I was resentful when my kids woke me up" Period. "They will no longer depend on me 24-7 when they leave my house" Period. While other posters would bend over backwards to say at the end of that sentence "but being a parent is the greatest thing that ever happened to me etc et" I do it myself.
I notice that many of her posts are also very stripped down. A sentence or two. She just has a very sparse writing style.
Maybe she should enumerate for everyone all the things she loves about being a parent..and if she can't then maybe you are right;)
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
flat in others,
and really annoying when it's stuck in your head."
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
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