WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:34am
No, it was just never an issue. I suppose that if it had become one, we would have blocked the doorway somehow, maybe even put a lock on the door if the problem were severe enough. But our kids learned to knock if the door were closed quickly enough.
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:34am
Maybe you're the one who's missing out, because you allowed having children to change your life so drastically.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:35am
You have in depth conversations with your DH in the morning? Is he off work today?

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:38am
<< I was in for a very rude awakening, the shock of which is just beginning to subside.>> I think you're at a point where I was about 7 years ago with my boys. I had PPD with DS1 and was pretty much through it by the time I got pregnant for DS2. But I have to tell you I enjoy parenting so much more now that my boys are older. Yes, there's still difficulties, but I enjoy the ages they are now. Doesn't mean I didn't love them to death when they were 5 and 3. And they were cute as all get out. But I enjoy spending time with them more now that they're older. And I think, Felicia, that you'll probably get what I mean when your kids are the ages my kids are now.
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:39am

Sure, that's an option. Still, it would put a small dent in our family activities since going to the kids' ballgames is something we do as a family activity these days.

I wasn't saying it was an impossible situation, just that it would be restrictive to our family. And it would have been pretty tough to swing it these past two weeks when my dh hasn't been home much. But I'm sure there is a way to work around it.

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:46am

Many mornings I don't get to talk to him because he goes to train at 5 or 6 am. Some mornings we talk while he is shaving and getting dressed. Today is a rest day AND his work team from out of town is no longer here so he didn't need to go to work until 9. We had from 7 until 9 to hang out together, some with kids, some without.

Is it odd to have in-depth conversation with a spouse in the morning?

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:47am
I really appreciate your honesty. Yes, it is really hard to be a parent, and some days I wonder what I've gotten myself into! But, I can also proudly say that so far my kids have turned out great, I've been with my wonderful DH for 23 years, and things are pretty good with our family, so maybe I have done some things right. Truthfully, anyone who says parenthood is 100% super wonderful all of the time is lying!! Lol!
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:47am
I've been pretty close so far. . .close enough that nothing more than minor adjustments were necessary.

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:52am
Only for me.

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 11:54am
I must have slept in the day those life lessons were handed out....I've been surprised by lots of the changes in my life so far.....

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