WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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I think it's partly due to our own expectations (mine were based on a good, but less than ideal childhood), temperament, and lifestyle.
Temperamentally and lifestyle wise, adding children didn't change the way I lived my life dramatically . . .but that's just what felt natural and comfortable to me.
My life would bore you. . .but I like it.
<< I think it's sad when a mother no longer enjoys her husband, her friends or adult pursuits she previously enjoyed after she becomes a mother.>>
Again, you are positing a dichotomy that simply doesn't exist for me, or for many mothers. Increased enjoyment of my kids translates to increased enjoyment of everything else, for me. My writing has gotten better and my relationships with other adults is much better since I became a mother. Why does it have to be one or the other?
Just because I enjoy blowing raspberries on a baby's tummy, I can't possibly enjoy running in a road race, having intense, spiritually connected sex, going out for a drink with a friend, or just sitting down by myself and re-reading Jane Eyre? Why?
Edited 5/27/2005 1:54 pm ET ET by dogma_2
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