WOH and sleeping issues
Find a Conversation
WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Pages
Slow deep even breaths would probably help here. "Sheesh" yourself. I understand you just fine. I don't agree with you. Big difference. Furthermore, Felicia has said, since this post, that although she loves her kids without limitation, she doesn't feel the same about parenting.
So what if you were referring to one post or twenty? I think your interpretation of that post is, as I said, rather far afield, for reasons I already explained. And I know you didn't say someone called Felicia delusional. Which makes your 'what if someone came on the board and called you delusional?' question really inapposite.
Hm. So I'm particularly defensive about "waxing poetic," it's not that you're mocking anything, oh, no no. I guess that means you are particularly defensive about someone thinking it's unfortunate that someone wouldn't enjoy parenting more. That must be it.
Edited 5/27/2005 1:12 pm ET ET by dogma_2
I've always felt that having children made my life fuller and more enjoyable.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Felicia, can I ask, and I dont mean this to sound harsh, I just really am wondering-WHY did you have a second child? If parenting was so difficult, so much harder than you had anticipated, why bring another baby into the mix? I realize the point is completely moot, I just wonder what your mindset was that you still chose to have another baby even though you were shellshocked by parenting.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
Dj's post:
"And while I think that has much more to do with personal unhappiness than anything else, it still strikes me as kind of sad. I feel bad for her."
Personal unappiness = sad.
Your post:
"I think you are rather far afield in thinking that anyone is thinking of Felicia as a "pathetic figure" or that she has been labeled "sad."
I dsagree. I believe the label is implicit in that sentence.
"So I'm particularly defensive about "waxing poetic," it's not that you're mocking anything, oh, no no"
No I wasn't mocking. I was explaining a difference in style and I believe I said as much. Why would I mock when I'm one of those people that tends to "wax poetic" more times than not? On this very board too? If you read it that way...oh well.
"I guess that means you are particularly defensive about someone thinking it's unfortunate that someone wouldn't enjoy parenting more. That must be it."
Nope
What do you mean by that? I had no other options besides marrying and having children? Yeah, thats why I waited until I was 33 to do so, lol.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Being surprised is one thing. Being left shellshocked over it is another.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
"Haven't you ever wanted something and then found out it was totally different than you expected when it finally arrived?" Yes. Not anything that was by necessity going to take up a major portion of my time and effort for a good portion of the remainder of my natural life.
Pages