WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 1:29pm
Oh well.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 1:34pm
To lots of us, the surprises are a very large part of the adventure. It doesn't appear to be part of your constitution to like surprises.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:01pm
That's because I'm a Gemini....

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:01pm
I really hope it doesn't matter one iota if she does wake him up the night before surgery. I would hope a surgeon of all things would maintain his ability to perform at peak efficiency without being critically dependant upon achieving some exact prescribed ammount of sleep TODAY. I truly hope he is of a more overall disposition. If he's generally getting enough sleep - he's 100% - whether he got exactly some sort of ideal ammount TODAY or not. Otherwise heaven help us if a need for surgery were what would ever wake him up. Some people do just as well, or even better, in a crisis than with a set predictable pattern, sleep or not. You should be comforted that the world does not to a man, or woman, share your sleep schedule dependancy. Where would we get emergency room doctors, firemen, all kinds of emergency response personel, military personnel, computer support people, snow plow operators and all those other jobs requiring this talent "can function JUST FINE even when sleep TODAY was less than usual".
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:03pm
I wasn't positing a dichotomy.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:04pm
Its not dangerous because the residents didn't sleep "last night". Its because they didn't sleep "this week". They work all day then are on call all night. Not only do they regularily luck into next to no sleep because of the nature of on-call - the sleep the do get is at all hours of the day and night.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:06pm
But I imagine you plan to generally be AH in the afternoons after school when he's in high school, right?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:09pm

Temperament and lifestyle probably are a factor. I just never felt that having kids meant that we would *have* to change our lives dramatically. I do much of the same things I did prior to having kids, the difference being they are usually included in those things now. And I have a temperament that allows me to be okay with things like extensive travel with small children, pushing a baby in a jogging stroller rather than running alone, and having my girlfriends over to my house for lunch or a barbecue as opposed to going out together at nightclubs.


Plus I had a really full and exciting young adulthood. I didnt feel like I was giving anything up that I would miss, and was really ready to move onto the next phase of my life-marriage and parenting.


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:10pm
So if you have free will, that means you can deliberately choose to miss out on things (or that you never miss out on things)?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:18pm
What is it that you feel you are missing out on?

Dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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