WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:20pm

I can't either.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:22pm
"So you'll have to work your schedule around his while he lives at home, correct?" Absolutely not. I don't have to do anything I don't choose to do - either no different from you, or perhaps I have much more freedom than you, not having a preconceived notion of what I will be doing. I have no earthly idea if I'll choose to be AH in the afternoons when DS is a teen. I certainly haven't made a determination already what school activities he'll be in in high school - how could I and why would I? - and as it stands he won't need to be driven to any of them, as we're within easy walking distance of his elementary, junior high and high school. (Edited to add that even now, DH does a lot of driving of DS to various things himself - don't want to leave you with the incorrect impression that I'm the one that does everything with him even now.)

I don't see what any of this has to do with whether my life will or will not change more than yours when my son is out of the house. It seems you're making a lot more assumptions about what I will be doing in the next 11 years or so than I am willing to.



Edited 5/27/2005 2:39 pm ET ET by dogma_2
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:25pm
Huh? Free will means it's in her power to change something if she feels she's "missing out" on something. You didn't answer my question. Why does change, even drastic change, mean something is being "missed"?
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:27pm
At a certain point this is like saying "I'm out here in the middle of the lake hoping to survive. I can't swim but I'm trying right now doing the best I can to master dog paddle!" Only you know how close you are to being submerged forever. The time a parent needs to adjust may not be the time a parent has to adjust. Sometimes screaming really loudly to attract help is the right way to go.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:28pm
Any particular reason? You might just as well have said "I think it's sad when babies are run over by buses" and it's just sheer happenstance that you happened to make the example the example you used?
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:29pm
You do realize its never been my intention to make myself clearly understood to everyone of every possible - description?
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:31pm
The general rules of residency are sometimes expressed as the following: "Eat when you can. Sleep when you can. Don't mess with the pancreas." Those who can't follow those rules don't seem to last beyond residency.
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:33pm
Their own pancreases (pancreai? I don't know) or those of their patients?

***Charles***
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:33pm
That's it in a nutshell. You're on a roll today.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:35pm

Patients'. But it would be even more career-limiting to attempt to mess with your own!

PS - pancreases. ;-)




Edited 5/27/2005 2:45 pm ET ET by dogma_2

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