WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:51pm

I believe it during the Victorian era that it became illegal for parents in certain parts of the world - known as *hers* - to sleep with their babies in their beds. Due to a suffocated baby problem they were having.

Its safety. First, see above. Second, no parent is going to send a young child to sleep out of sight and reach if there is any real danger of the child being eaten or abducted or otherwise harmed by any sort of anything be it animal, plant or mineral or the elements. Our world is simply safe enough to allow parents the option of allowing children to sleep relatively unprotected.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 2:52pm
"Sometimes screaming really loudly to attract help is the right way to go." And even then, you'll have to be prepared for those on the beach who will say, "Screaming for help? Pish tosh. That's venting! Really. Everyone knows how to swim, and it just makes people feel inferior if we say that some people flounder when over their heads. Put that dingy away, let's all stand up and give her a good cheer!"
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:01pm

Or for someone to stand on the beach, shake their head and say, "Why did you get in the water in the first place if you didn't know how to swim! I knew, when I got in the water, the waves might be high and the waves might be low but I was prepared. You really, really should have realized getting in the water would change your life."


And, for some reason, the song "Every day is a winding road" is going through my head.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:05pm

Why did you have a second child, already knowing your dd had non-trivial emotional issues?

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:06pm
"Pancreata" is good too, if you want to be Greek about it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:08pm

I had a fantastic life before kids; I have an enjoyable one now, but you can't call it "fantastic" like a childfree life is (or, you can, but then you mean it in an enitirely different way).


I just spent the past 2 hours playing with Joey - don't worry about me, really, I'm enjoying him (and Petey) just fine.

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:09pm
I meant, if you didn't have your children, what would you be doing now with your life?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:10pm
We've already established that I had a much more blissful, sheltered, carefree childhood than you did.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:11pm
I don't get it; I truly do not get it. What was so 'fantastic" about your life before kids that you can't replicate with kids?
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:14pm
You really think parenting is going to take up a good portion of your life, even after you're 50 and no longer have a child even living with you?

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