WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:15pm
Do you enjoy all surprises, pleasant and unpleasant?

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:17pm
Not enough time right now to list everything, but nothing that posters haven't mentioned here before.

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:19pm
Are you saying you'll be a SAHW but not necessarily a SAHM?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:20pm

Change of any kind, drastic or not, does not mean missing out on anything - at least, by definition.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:26pm

Um, because dd and dh were a package deal, and dh and I did want to have one bio child together? But I did decide against having a second bio child because I felt it would take away from time with dd.


Not to mention, even with dd's issues, I was not overwhelmed or especially out of my element with parenting.


Dj

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:26pm
Sure it does -- because anytime you make a change in one direction, you lose out on the multiple other directions you could be going. I think it's called "oppportunity cost."
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:27pm

Working, traveling a lot, probably dating since I probably wouldnt be married.


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:34pm

Wow, I can think of a ton of things but I am kind of afraid to say ;)


Do you really want to know?


Meldi

Meldi
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:39pm

For yourself or for PNJ? Because if your kids are still babies, and you can't afford a full-time nanny, then you don't have the same kinds of abilities to recreate your before-kids life as PNJ does. But sure, go ahead. What is or has been your "opportunity cost" for having children?

I thought of one for me and DH -- we have been wanting to travel in Egypt and Turkey and haven't felt comfortable taking the kids there because of safety issues (probably more perceived than real). So our "fantastic" trip to the eastern mediterranean is on hold awhile' although we're planning an "enjoyable" one to Paris in a few days.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:40pm
That too!

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