WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:42pm
Absolutely I do! Good portion means no less emotionally involved or interested than I am today. And God willing, spending the amount of time with DS that I spend with my mother now.
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:44pm

Whaaaa? I didn't say I'll be an "anything." Least of all a SAH-anything.

Why are you assuming that I'll always be AH? I certainly don't. I have no earthly idea where you're coming from, or where you get that idea. I don't know if I'll be AH 6 months from now, let alone for the next 11 years.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:46pm
The difference is that I know what I'm missing out on, and I made a conscious choice to forego it, at least for the time being. I don't really miss it. You, otoh, sound like you would like to enjoy being a mother more, and I do wish you could find a way to do it that would work for you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:47pm
Do you have any happily childfree friends?

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:49pm
I asked an almost identical question, for an almost identical reason, once, and got a response saying, well, I couldn't just take off for Europe on a whim now that I had a child, could I. Seeing as I never once took off for Europe on a whim prior to having a child, nor very well could I given the job I had, I really had a hard time seeing that as a reason to beat my breast over having become a parent.
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:51pm
No one does. That doesn't mean I'm not grateful for the chance to have surprises. I'd be bored out of my gourd without them.
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:51pm

I guess I'm the only one here who has no clue whether I'll be living geographically close to either of my sons.

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:52pm

I think one can still really enjoy things like travel with children. I knew that once I had kids, I would be more hesitant to travel to places where there might be political unrest, health concerns, or other issues. But we never intended to stop traveling completely-just change the places we went and how we traveled, making it more child friendly.


Dj

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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:53pm
Irrelevant. No one has said that people can't be happy without children. The question is, what can't people with children do once they have children?
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 3:56pm

This conversation is starting to remind me of the movie *Parenthood*, where Steve martin is complaining about how difficult it all is, and the wife says its like a rollercoaster and that

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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