WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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'One of you would stay home, the other parent would go to the ball game.'
The nights Ethan has soccer, my dh and I drive separately. He takes Logan (2 1/2) to watch for a bit and then he leaves early to get him bathed and to bed and I stay to watch Ethan and take him home. There will be nights when only 1 of us will go because of bedtime schedules.
'Plus I had a really full and exciting young adulthood. I didnt feel like I was giving anything up that I would miss, and was really ready to move onto the next phase of my life-marriage and parenting.'
I didn't have a full and exciting young adulthood which may explain why I'm feeling the *need* to do so now at age 30. I've been with dh since I was 17 and have just felt like I'm *missing* out on something.
Edited 5/28/2005 1:05 pm ET ET by texigan
Thats why I tend to think people shouldnt marry until at least age 25 (although many marry younger and are perfectly happy-just my own little view on that).
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
That's funny. I was a horrible teen and my mother placed that old voodoo curse on me so it's bound to come back in spades.
My confidence is building, slowly. I am still amazed when I issue orders and they are obeyed or when a punishment was effective or when I say "I love you." and I hear, "I love you too. It's the best ever."(that's what Aspen says, don't really know where she got that from). I am amazed. But then naptime will be a horrible fight to the death and I will feel like a failure who doesn't know the first thing about children.
Thanks for your thoughts!
Meldi
Thanks, Donna, that was a great post.
The mom thing? I think she said it and it could be partially true for some people. And I think people all the time take comfort in sentiments from people who don't truly believe the words that are coming out of their mouths. Hasn't your husband ever told you, "You look great, honey!" when you have the flu and you know that you look like death warmed over? Maybe it's not 'the truth' but the fact that the person saying it cares enough about your insercurites to say something nice makes you feel better. But, maybe not for you....like I said, you are not an insecure person ;)
My mom was great with the 'mom knows best' thing and she tries to hammer it into my head all the time. She's like, "You are the adult, Meliss! You know whether Aspen needs a nap or not!" I think that that self-assuredness makes it all sooooo much easier.
Have a great weekend.
Meldi
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But that was your CHOICE. You could have traveled during school breaks, if it was that important to you. Travel was always really important to me-I used to save my earnings all year when I was a teen so I could take a trip somewhere every summer. I bought my first plane ticket by myself with my own money at age 15 and flew to visit my grandmother in Texas. If you want to make it happen, you make it happen. Besides, didnt you have a good 8-9 years after age 25 to travel before having children?
And I'm surprised you only get two weeks of vacation a year.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
<> Sorry. The answer is no. ;-)
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<> He doesn't do a thing for me, so I don't have to worry. LOL! I'll take Hugh Jackman or Colin Firth (Bridgette Jones movies) any day over Tom.
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