WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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OK, so you don't have all the time in the world to travel now. That's one thing, that might make a difference for a couple weeks out of an entire year. Anything else?
Do you seriously imagine the rest of us were jetting around Europe when you were studying and working? I had been to Canada several times before 25 (it borders NY, where I lived) but 24 is when I first went to Europe. The vast majority of people I know haven't ever been even though they're pushing 40, and don't express any of the resentment over that that fact that you do.
Edited 5/31/2005 7:25 am ET ET by dogma_2
Well...I guess I was more "jeeping" and "deuce-and-a-halfing" my way around Europe in those days :)
Karen
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No, it doesn't make sense the way its explained. If you put the behaviour together with a personality that feels overwhelmed when subjected to demands of any other person and that is very dependant upon having her life ordered and predictable in order to feel that things are under control - it makes sense. Thats just not possible with children. The whole sleep prison is the "I can control this at least and produce a sense of calm for myself in the middle of the ocean of chaos and panic" life preserver. Its a control fix. Its not the worst one to find and latch onto. There are worse possibilities out there.
I don't think most of these ambitions would be met without kids either. The personality is the ihibitor, not the children. It very likely always has been.
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