WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 10:28am
And its going to get worse for you. I saw alot more of my friends when I had babies toddlers and preschoolers. Its the time to focus on that and develop the family friendships. Its alot more difficult with gradeschoolers - most of whom have an array of activities in which they participate and to which families give scheduling priority. These days we spend alot more time with new friends we've met who have kids involved in things along with ours. Even if your friends already have busy school agers - you don't. You could decide to spend a weekend with your friends watching a kids soccer tournament or something. You just probably wouldn't. I would.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 10:28am
I thought the reason for the strict sleep schedule was to control their behavior and generally make them more pleasant company. If they need to be disciplined every 5 minutes, perhaps it's not working and loosening up a little might be worth a shot?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 10:51am

I was using it as a comparison in light of your implication that anyone who gets a lot of vacation time must not have a very important job. Simply pointing out that there are plenty of careers that *do* offer a lot of vacation time-whether that is by circumstance or policy makes no difference.


Dj

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 10:52am

Ever heard of middle ground? Good grief. I think one can have a great life without financial stress and not have to work without every taking a day off.


Dj

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 10:56am

I think not getting a decent amount of vacation time, or not being able to use that vacation time, would be a huge downside, both emotionally and physically. No matter how much of a thrill they got out of the job itself.


Dj

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 10:57am

Now, who is avoiding middle ground? Did she say anything about never taking a day off?


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 10:59am

That seems rather....dry.


Dj

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 11:03am

She was talking about knowing many lawyers who havent taken a single vacation day, ever. I said that doesnt sound like a great way to live. I wasnt referring to HER.


Dj

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 11:05am
Not using your alloted vacation time means working for free. I can't think of any job that I would like that much.
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 11:06am
What do you mean?

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