WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:14pm

Add me to that list, but that's obvious, I guess. LOL.


Meldi

Meldi
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:15pm
So if they're going to be little powder kegs no matter what you do just because of their ages, why bother with the sleep schedule?
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:18pm

Again, not my dh, but he is in sales. If he takes too much time off, doesn't keep in contact with customers, isn't there when they need him, well, the deal just might go somewhere else and that would cost him A LOT more than the vacation pay.


Sad as it is.


Meldi

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:18pm
Exactly.
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:26pm
That makes no sense. Its like a wohm being unhappy with her life. But not because she's a wohm or married or has kids or anything like that. Its her professional life as a dentist that is causing her misery and qualifying her for the "unhappy with life" sticker. But its not that she doesn't like her career as a dentist. Its not that she doesn't like working, or working while raising kids. She loves her career as a dentist. She loves working. She loves the kids, her husband life is great. Its just that she thinks her husband would respect her opinions more if she were a doctor. So she's miserable with life. This stuff doesn't add up. You can't disect like this.
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:30pm
Oh stop it. I'm up to my eyeballs in the white collar world. People who can buy and sell me take their vacations and so do those who can barely afford a middle class col. The usual correlation is - the more money people make the more vacation time they have and the more they spend on their vacatinos annually. There are alwasy ONE or TWO around who have vacation-phobia. They are by no means the rule. They may well think they are. Their problem, not mine.
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:34pm

Well, I would hope that she's learning the importance of sleep, lol.


Yesterday? No nap. Today? He%% on wheels. She's only just-turned-two.


I don't wish to spend 14 hours a day distracting an overtired child.


Yes, I do stress when she doesn't take a nap. But have I created a 'stress-mosphere' (cute, btw), I don't think so. She laid up in her room for a while yesterday, refused to sleep and then we played on the beach for the rest of the day. But, inside, I stressed because I knew that last night would be a battle (it was) and today would be worse (it has been, thus far). She's just not herself when she is overtired. I don't think 8:30-6 is enough sleep for a 2 year old.


Meldi

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:37pm
Then by what you claim you are missing in your life you must be wishing for a fantasy life that no 40 yr old has. Or for the most part - wants.
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:41pm

He'll take off at the end of fiscal. But not quarterly. His clients are all over the map (hospitals, universities, etc.) if he had just one, like automotive, it would be a lot easier.


His counterparts take vacations (I know, because they often ask him to cover). I think he's sort of a workaholic. I had to force him to go snowboarding this year.


Meldi

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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:42pm

I don't agree that "vacation" is only appropriate if you travel.

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