WOH or SAH? 2 issues to consider

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Registered: 01-07-2008
WOH or SAH? 2 issues to consider
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Mon, 01-07-2008 - 1:21pm

It seems to me that the decision to work outside the home (WOH) or stay-at-home (SAHM) involves TWO essential questions (the second of which seems to receive less attention in some forums and by some parents):


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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 3:46pm
OK, I was leaving out rich negligent idiots. And having a college degree is no guarantee against idiocy or prevention against negligence, as you well know.
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 3:48pm

<<I really wish that were so, but there are so many examples of educated, informed people on good salaries skimping on daycare.>>

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 3:52pm
I think there are some rich, negligent idiots, and I think there are some basically decent people who make terrible decisions compromising their children in substandard or untested care, when they are in a bind and really have no choice.
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 3:58pm
I have never had these discussions either. Even when I was a new mom with twins. I joined a SAHM group called "Mother's First". It was a group that apealed to professional women putting their careers on hold to SAH with their kids. They also welcomed moms that downsize their careers or work PT. We were just their to support eachother socially. Playgroups were formed and that is where I met my best friends ever. Never did they talk about the evils of working moms. The group moderator made it clear that was not the purpose of the group. It was there to support our decisions and respect others and their decisions. I did have one mom say "Why are you here since you work?" My friends all stuck up for me and they continue to support my decision of working. I think what they do is great too. We all support eachother.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 4:05pm

Wait!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2005
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 4:07pm

I live in NO. VA and good/legal/english speaking/who can drive nannies are very hard to come by. The good DC center have huge waiting lists. Sometimes people are forced to put their kids in their 4,5,6th choice. I was told I needed to put my baby on a waitlist for the good daycares before he/she were concieved. I actually did it and found out I was having twins and could not afford the DC we chose at the time. It would have taken over half my salary and that would not make financial sense to me. I was offered PT by my employer with retirement benefits - option for insurance - sick leave/disability/annual leave/family personal/and comp time. Perfect!!!!


 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 4:09pm

i downgraded to basic cable when I became a single wohm. I was ecstatic when shortly after I remarried we were able to upgrade to a Basic Plus package!


eileen

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 6:02pm
True, unless you just want to WOH regardless and see it as a "must".
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 6:05pm
Wonder why this "someone at your desk" couldn't remember being in school, lined up for lunch in the cafeteria, in front of the ticket window getting tickets for a ball game, or at the registrar's in college.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 6:07pm

lol


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