WOH or SAH? 2 issues to consider
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WOH or SAH? 2 issues to consider
| Mon, 01-07-2008 - 1:21pm |
It seems to me that the decision to work outside the home (WOH) or stay-at-home (SAHM) involves TWO essential questions (the second of which seems to receive less attention in some forums and by some parents):
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It shoudl be but there is a perception in our society that anyone can do child care, after all, anyone can care for their own child and how different is caring for someone elses?
Kitty
"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator
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Kitty
"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t
This is precisely the problem.
1)
It must have been the way I worded it, but most readers seem to think that I'm advocating being a SAHM, or suggesting hiring nannies or other things that are out of their reach. I am not. It really wasn't intended to be the primary focus of my post.
I just have a very difficult time understanding parents who do not take the time to get to know, and communicate with their caretakers on a regular basis to ensure that their children are being properly taken care of. Those caretakers could be daycare teachers, assistants, or baby-sitters, whoever. I know parents who do hire baby-sitters that are just available, meet them for a few minutes and take off. Also, parents who take vacations and leave their barely-verbal children with baby-sitters, provided by the hotel, truly puzzle me! And, there are parents who shuffle their children from school to after-school care to a baby-sitter during the week, then hire baby-sitters again on the weekend. And, again, they barely know the people they leave their kids with. I just don't get it.
Personally, I've had a very hard time finding quality care (including daycare and short-term babysitters)- which is why I've made the choice to make financial sacrifices and SAH. And, I do recognize that I am very fortunate to have that choice, and not everyone does. And, those of you who do SAH, or have done it in the past,
#2 is the most important by far. I would do whatever it takes to ensure #2. Just imagine if something happened to your precious baby....nothing else would matter.
Why would anyone with half a brain cancel their cell phone? I don't know about you, but my cell service is a good $35 cheaper than my landline service AND they don't charge me for long distance.
In my opinion this is just one of MANY flawed arguments put out by the "WOH parents are universally greedy and selfish and negligent of their kids! Look! They have CELL phones, those lousy wretches!! Talk about EXCESS!!!"
but it's a senseless argument 99% of the time and not reflective of reality.
Kitty
"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator
Click on the Virginia Rescue Center and search for Roxey, VA5165
~~~~~~~~~
Kitty
"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t
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