WOH or SAH? 2 issues to consider

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Registered: 01-07-2008
WOH or SAH? 2 issues to consider
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Mon, 01-07-2008 - 1:21pm

It seems to me that the decision to work outside the home (WOH) or stay-at-home (SAHM) involves TWO essential questions (the second of which seems to receive less attention in some forums and by some parents):


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Registered: 10-24-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 6:29am
That's great, but some good daycare centers have waiting lists so long you have to be on them before your child is even conceived (as someone posted happened to them).
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Registered: 01-22-2006
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 6:59am
Why do people always talk about cutting out cable?
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Registered: 10-24-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 7:11am

I don't know but if $50 per month was completely unaffordable I'd feel that SAH was unaffordable.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:33am

ITA. I would be back to work FT - changing jobs - try to find a Supervisors position instead of Staff Nurse if we could not afford those things. Two cars are a must in our family, my kids like the Disney channel and I love my internet. Actually the internet probably saves me money because I always surf for the best prices i.e. Amazon.com, Shopzilla..... Our cell service is only $13 a month. I pay by the min. because I rarely use it but the schools expect you to have one so they can get a hold of you right away in an emergency. If I did not have a second car I would be paralized and feel like a kept prisoner in my own home. All of my SAHM friends have much more than I do. They are also a little older than me and have worked more in the past.


My brother and his wife do not have a land line. I think I would constantly be in trouble because I forgot to charge the phone. There have been times in the past where a big winter storm or hurricane can cause the area to lose power for days. I will always have a land line just in case - I also need it for the fax machine. Vacations are something my kids really enjoy and so do I. I also enjoy taking the kids to the theater - We are seeing "My Fair Lady" this weekend and we have tickets to "The Lion King" this summer. My girls enjoy Summer Camp, Swim lessons, soccer leage, Girl Scouts..... Need a second car to drive them there.

 

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:49am

<<#2 is the most important by far. I would do whatever it takes to ensure #2. >>


I am so happy that you agree. Although I did have to put my child in daycare that was

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:52am

do you believe it is okay for parents to put their own needs (i.e., materialistic needs) before the needs of your kids (i.e., the need for quality care)?


no, of course not, but I also think that many of the "materialistic needs" that can be met by having two working parents (over and above quality care), usually benefit the entire family (including the children), not just the working parents.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:55am

I know! I would hope you were getting more pay that could cover more than those two bills.


 

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:57am

<Yes, we need money to be able to afford to maintain our homes and raise our children. But

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:57am

<<do you believe it is okay for parents to put their own needs (i.e., materialistic needs) before the needs of your kids (i.e., the need for quality care)?>>


No, but I've RARELY found the *needs* of the parents and children to be in conflict.

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 10:03am
Until you can point to even ONE poster on this board who has said their child in DC dislikes it or the provider is negligent but that doesn't matter to them, they're working anyway, your question is nothing more than the "Daycare is EEEEEEEEEEEvil' version of "So, when did you stop beating your wife?"

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