WOH or SAH? 2 issues to consider

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Registered: 01-07-2008
WOH or SAH? 2 issues to consider
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Mon, 01-07-2008 - 1:21pm

It seems to me that the decision to work outside the home (WOH) or stay-at-home (SAHM) involves TWO essential questions (the second of which seems to receive less attention in some forums and by some parents):


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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 3:08pm

How old is she?


My kids starting *serving* themselves at about the age of 4yo,

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Ducky

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 2:48pm
it depends...if it's spaghetti or stew,i usually serve it.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 2:20pm

Question....do you fill their plates or do they fill their own?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 12:38pm
yes we do have dessert every night.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:57am

I might have to start using that rule...it's a good one.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:56am

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Yes, I would further say that it's a rare child under the age of 5 that doesn't need a quiet or rest time each day.


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Yes, I think the benefits of an active child taking a rest period of 60-90 minutes is greatly beneficial to the child.


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My oldest never skipped naps, although he didn't always nap, he did great.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:35am
My kids often have something else after dinner too these days, particularly when they've had sports practices. We just call it grazing. Starts when they get home from school, continues through dinner prep, and they finally stop eating right before they fall into bed for the night. I have a rule they can't be in the kitchen when I am cooking dinner anymore because they drive me crazy grabbing food from under my nose. The hour or so I am making dinner is the only hour one or more of them isn't eating, I swear.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:30am

Weren't we talking about four year olds?

And weren't we talking about an enforced rest of 60-90 minutes?

As I said, I was quite happy with my provider's policy of everybody under the age of six has a 20-30 minute quiet time on a cot in a darkened room, and that after twenty minutes of so, those kids who hadn't fallen asleep were allowed to get up and go back outside until the little ones woke up, after which they all had afternoon snack. Most of the kids slept almost all the time until they were about 3 1/2, after which there would be a skipped nap or two a week leading to giving up naps altogether at some (individual) point. Although I do remember a couple of kids at 5 who never skipped naps and the wondering whether the kid was ready for kindergarten or not because of the nap. In my book, forcing a kid who still needs a nap NOT to take a nap is as bad or worse as forcing a kid who doesn't need a nap to lie in the dark for 90 minutes.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:24am

Mine have something for dessert almost every night, although their idea of dessert isn't always sweet as in candy.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:20am

<<Honestly, I don't see forced napping and forced singing as comparable issues. One is developmental, the other an education issue.>>


I don't agree...I don't think forced singing is an education issue, unless of course you are talking about a child learning that they have to do something that they don't enjoy simply because a teacher instructs them to do so.

PumpkinAngel

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