WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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I'll trade ya ... preschool + mortgage = 14600.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Yep, you do spend less. How many adults are in your family though and how often do you eat out? We eat out once a week together, on average. I eat out for work about 2 - 3 times a week...
And we have a live in nanny so I'm buying groceries for 3 adults, 2 toddlers and 2 huge dogs.
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That brings up another point ...
What is in people's "grocery" cateogry? I separate out, for budgeting purposes, household goods (toilet paper, cleaning supplies) and pet care (cat litter cat food, etc)
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Yes, me too. I currently spend more like $300 a week on groceries for a family of 3 adults, 2 toddlers. When I'm at home more I'll try to cut that down a bit. But its expensive where we live, very...and I buy all organic everything...so I've been more concerned with quality, freshness, biodegradability (dish soap to paper towels, etc) than cost.
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