WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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Ah, I know the general area. Much cheaper than where we are. There is no store around here where you'd get 58c bread. I'm between Sacramento and the Bay area. Its a little college town...
MM
Personally? Not with two kids, no. My experience living on that amount has been before we had children- however knowing what our kids cost us in additional expenses, I know that yes- we *could* live comfortably. However, I know of more than a couple of people who have *with* children. And while I may not know all of the intimate details of their financial lives, I do know that they have between 1 and 4 children with an age range between newborn and 27 and all consider themselves comfortable. Three are helping children through college and I know that we've talked retirement with at least two. And while I'm not saying by any means that I know everyone in my area making that income, I see that it *can* be done in our area.
Wytchy
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