WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?

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WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am

Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"

Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.

I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.

Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.

Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.

Sabina

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 11:28pm

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Okay..then explain to me the difference between a family choosing a higher priority and how its not considered better in their eyes?

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 11:34pm

Yes, its true in our district...and we even have a couple of blue ribbon schools.

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 11:45pm

Hey...I have

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:11am

Do you want to know that privateschool + mortgage = less than you stated?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:26am
Well, I live in Minnesota (which sometimes gives Alaska a run for its money) and I don't park my vehicle in the garage. At least not this year.
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 1:04am

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No...we were specifically talking about the amount of money people save in retirement funds, savings accounts, and college funds....all of which are tax impact vehicles....the amount of money one fritters away does not always effect the amount of money one saves and deals with for tax purposes.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 4:24am
I know where you are. I love driving up I-5 from the Bay Area. My aunt lives in Redding. I'm due for a trip out there this summer.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 6:08am

Cute story..I have a little girl who goes to private school.

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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 6:23am
I think that again crosses the line into the "no longer comfortable, scraping by" zone. I don't think children really want clothes for presents. They want toys and things. So, if you're sending the message to family and friends to buy only (or mostly) clothes (and it must be a lot of clothes to cover the entire year), then you're no longer living comfortably. The sah family is no longer self-sufficient since clothes are a necessity.
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 6:50am

Hey look, LTB! A miracle! I completely agree with you :-). Clothes are part of the basics. I couldn't imagine depending on birthday and christmas presents to provide for the clothing needs of the kids.

Laura

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