WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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Probably not, but that's when we'd consider moving. Probably back to where our extended family lives to replace the loss of the house with the addition of loving extended family. And since I have a guaranteed job back there (my father owns his own business) and I could get land for free and put in a house (my parents own oodles of land in the middle of nowhere) then it's a very workable plan for us.
Wytchy
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LOL Not if it's an American Girl Doll and her furniture! No way would I ever have bought that for my DDs!
That sucks :( I'm so sorry :(
Just for my own curiosity- (and feel free not to answer!) there were no signs that this was a threat? Your communication was wonderful, you were close and "lovey" with each other? Sex life was good? Made time for each other? Both seemed equally happy and satisfied in all areas of your life together? Finances were good? No ongoing 'issues'? Just curious...
Wytchy
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