WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am

Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"

Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.

I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.

Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.

Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.

Sabina

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 8:32am
Median income is $90,000.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 8:34am
That's okay.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 8:37am
Of course who you are and what you do for your family, in the way and with the caring you have, is irreplaceable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 8:45am

"Why wouldn't it be traumatic to know that your family was no longer living there?"

Because they'd still be living? Because you'd already moved out and it wouldn't even inconvenience you? Because memories can't be taken from you?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 8:51am

When you went to college, did you take every single thing you owned, or did you still leave things with your parents?


Anywho, I'm a little incredulous that my feeling traumatic over my parents' move is somehow debatable, but hey it's

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 8:57am

I had some stuff there, but so what? Packing your room or having it packed for you was traumatizing?

My parents and I moved less than a year before I went to college. Not even a blip on the trauma radar screen. No, you can't go back and start feeling "untraumatized" but you might consider why it is you had that dramatic a reaction.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 8:59am

Because I had such a wonderful childhood, and because my memories were as tied to the place I grew up as to the people with whom I grew up.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 9:00am

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Everyone has different priorities.


While I *am* a SAHM, I live in a very high COL area - one of the highest in the country.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 9:04am
Are you talking about adult children?
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 9:31am
Where my family lives isn't important ... my relationship with them is.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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