WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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Are you the poster that moved to rural Pennsylvania? Someone on the board did that so she could SAH and her DH made around 30K.
Mondo
No one said you couldnt do it.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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Jeesh, talk about dysfunctional! I'm so sorry.
My DH hadn't talked to his Mom since he was 16 (when she lost part time custody) - lot of bad issues there - she tried to get him a prostitute for his 16th birthday (see why his Dad got custody?) She was a crack addict and alcoholic.
Mondo
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Well, you'll probably debate it with me, but I think you did! To be fair, so did a few others. Btw, I know you think that my posts are hard to understand, but I have a confession to make. English is not my first language. I have been speaking and writing in English for a few years only. So, it's a little challenging for me. But this board makes me feel better because some of these posters do not do much better than me.
Sabina
"If she were a FT WOHM making a higher salary, say 80k a year, there would still be a loss of the dh's salary."
But it's a lot easier to live on $80K than on $37K.
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