WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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No, I think you just took my posts too personally. If you reread them, I never said you werent or couldnt do it. It was the verbage you were using that I took issue with, and the generalizations.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Not really. Her monthly income wouldnt matter that much if they'd been living within their means to begin with. And you never said-what DID happen to that 350k insurance policy, house proceeds and sale of horse proceeds? Not to mention social security. Average that out-its more than 37k a year.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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Please, I never said that. But you're right, my statement about marrying someone and living off them was insensitive. I do understand it's much more complicated than that.
But, believe it or not, I really was not thinking of SAHMs with my OP. I suppose I should have anticipated that my OP might be misinterpreted in that way by SAHMs. On the other hand, it has been pointed out to me that on this board, there has to be something to debate about. So, posters will sometimes create a debate when there might not really be one, or at least one that was intended.
Sabina
Okay, now I'm really confused... So you actually do think I might be able to help my kids learn about financial independence by WOH? That can't possibly be what you mean...
Sabina
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Oddity is in the eye of the beholder. You might find it odd that I had a child out of wedlock. I find it incredibly odd that you married a man who couldn't clean up broken glass in the bathroom -- and that you couldn't walk in there in your barefeet. That is ODD.
mom_writer
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