WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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My Mom didn't sell the house we grew up in when she remarried, she rented it to my oldest sisters.
That house was the ONLY thing left of the good childhood I had (father died at 10), it held every good memory I had.
Mondo
And I never said it didnt apply to her. So she cant feel independent without working-what does that have to do with teaching a child to be self sufficient????
My point has been all along that simply working, in and by itself, is not going to teach a child to be self sufficient. USING ones work status to teach independence may contribute. But the op was basically saying *well
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I have been very clear with dh since before I quit my job to stay home - the moment we feel our financial well-being is at risk (or
Our favorite times are hanging out at the beach or island (small manmade island with beach right across from Sea World - it's an offleash park so our greyhound can take his laps and chase ducks!).
Mondo
OK. Gotcha.
Mondo
>>I think PnJ probably felt similar, even as a young adult. She lost her Mom, that house held her memories of her Mom.<<
I'm not PNJ, but we do have similar situations. That is exactly why I would say that when my dad sold my childhood home (I was 24) it was a bit traumatic for me. I no longer had "my home" that held all those memories of my Mom.
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