WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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OK, just guessing. ;)
Mondo
So if her mom was alive when her house was sold she has no reason to consider this a traumatic experience?
I thought our personal experiences and feelings about our lives were just that - *personal*.
I don't think it matters.
PumpkinAngel
Again, if one is trying to buy a 350,000+ home on a combined income of 90,000 or thereabouts, one is living (quite a bit) beyond their means. Unless one is being sure to keep their home cost below that 28%. One can't generate equity on a home if one doesn't own a home to generate equity *on*, meaning that if the cheapest one can get a starter home in the area is 350,000+ and one is only making 90,000, then home ownership isn't financially reasonable even for a starter home to try to 'move up' from. Unless one is moving *into* the area after selling a home in a different area that they've built up equity in... Is that what you're trying to say?
Wytchy
Which is why it is a matter of priority and up to the couple as to what they perceive to be 'negatives'. For instance, you may consider having to move to an area with a lower COL to be a negative, whereas I do not. Negative/positive is all relative :)
Wytchy
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