WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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Even recent college grads think they should make big bucks coming right out of college - so many aren't willing to pay their dues.
While I can't imagine being ready for marriage right out of college, I wonder what I would have done if I *had* married right out of college.
I don't have any "theory" regarding PNJ (my post to Mondomom was about MY experience).
If PNJ says the sale of her childhood home was traumatic for her, who am I (or you) to question her feelings?
"What's odd is the absence of any such strong feelings associated with acutal relationships."
I was much more traumatized when my grandmother died when I was 32 than I was by my parents' move.
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"It's so much more than the 'thing.'" Well, what more is it, then? She didn't lose anything BUT a thing, a house in which she no longer even lived.
Logic has a lot to do with it for me - like the ability to have a sense of perspective.
Hey, she had whatever feelings she had. I don't get it, but I believe it.
OK, I take it back for you - Mondomom thought her feelings might have been magnified by the loss of her mother, though, which was not the case.
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