WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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| Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am |
Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"
Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.
I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.
Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.
Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.
Sabina

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my point was choice income not no income.
what part didn't you understand?
*regardless of income* or my reply to you about *sacrifice and priority*
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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
So how far down the "choice" income does he have to go before you would return to work?
What exactly is choice income anyway? I have never come across that term before...do you mean as long as he made any money whatsoever (working at McDonald's or WalMart) you would continue to stay home but, as soon as he lost his job, you would return to work?
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Why would you mock someone else's grief?
What's it to you how others grieve over losses?
It was the loss of the family home, not the fact of moving that caused her trauma.
I understood what you wrote. . .but when questioned about it, you went back and CHANGED what you wrote, instead of just clarifying what you meant (as opposed to what you wrote).
I haven't read your response to Kristi, but your edits to the post I responded to changed your meaning. . .not just clarifying it.
However, they *would* have had property taxes, which go up virtually every since assessment period and which frequently offer no stability in guessing how the raise will be calculated. One of the chief reasons for seniors losing their home is because they can't keep up with appreciating property assessment/taxes on their home. Same thing with upkeep for normal maintenance/wear tear.
A new water heater may need to be replaced as often as every 7 years; Furnaces may only last 15 on the short end of the range. Roofs, if you're lucky, may go 20 or 30, but they often begin to show signs of failure well before that. These are major expenses and unless one has the extra income to provide contingency funds, it's very easy to say "Well, pay off the house note, you credit card loser, and you could keep your house even though you don't really have the income to support it." without having any real credible argument.
Karen
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