WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?

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WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am

Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"

Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.

I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.

Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.

Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.

Sabina

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 2:56pm

LOL! If we're talking subjective personal definitions of "need" then I "need" my monthly massage and pedicure, my brand new van (I couldn't possibly drive anything else, you know) my health club membership and my "fun money" so I can go out with the girls when I feel like it. LOL! I couldn't possibly make it without those things. LOL! However could one do without them? ;) I can't imagine! (sarcasm intended ;)

Wytchy

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 2:58pm
In Mass., yes, but remember that property taxes are not universal. There are homestead exemptions in several states, and if you live in a cheap enough house, you may not have to pay property tax at all.
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 3:20pm

She meant $200 a month ($50 a week). We spend about $300 a week on groceries. That's for 3 adults, 2 toddlers. Sometimes more. But I buy only organic, fresh, and have a love of seafood, and some other fairly expensive foods. Plus our diaper bill alone is enormous and that's part of the grocery bill.

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 3:41pm

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You know it can be achieved in a sub-ideal school with parental or other outside supplementation?

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 3:58pm

It can be done?

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:00pm
Well, I can't see $75 a month either ... but kids don't need milk for calcium or for a beverage. Broccoli has tons of calcium. And water works just fine. Lots of other alternatives.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:17pm
I'm not sure what you're saying. Lots of HUD-constructed housing benefits others besides the impoverished (i.e., public housing). For instance, HUD constructs senior living buildings, and the rent, while partially subsidized, is income-based - a senior with a decent income or savings can live there but might not receive any rent subsidies at all.
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:18pm

I have a hard time with the word never....it's so final.


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I'm not trying to twist your posts into that having a sahp is a need....just having a hard time understanding why you advocate a move to a low col to fulfill a want?

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:21pm

The unfortunate part is that this is such a highly charged issue. And yes- the discussion, at least on my part, has been about the affordability of sah ;)

Wytchy

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