WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?

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WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am

Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"

Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.

I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.

Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.

Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.

Sabina

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:14pm

Well, of COURSE Microsoft is begging for him. Where else are they going to get a hardware/software genius who did nothing more than pick up a book before writing a specialized program (that he sells himself) and then single handedly rolled out an information system (like that has any meaning in the industry other than "Loaded programs onto a computer and checked to ensure the network connected")....and all for just about what you'd pay for a secretary with a high school diploma.

Karen

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sharp in some places,
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:15pm

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Since I don't need to know that for either this discussion or their taxes...no.

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:16pm
No, I have to go with Jorvia (or Hollie...now I'm confused....) on this one. it may be *necessary* but I don't know anyone who thinks it's reasonable.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:22pm

If you say so... as I would never judge the judge of wants and needs....


PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:23pm
You mean your conjecture. You have never done it.
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:24pm
Someone with $350,000 in liquid assets and a fully paid home is hardly living on $37,000.
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:27pm

First, I didn't know that your dh had been redeployed. I hope he's back quickly and safely.

To answer your question, "comfortable" means not losing sleep over money. I realize that's subjective but at the income levels mentioned here, which indisputably are one emergency away from financial ruin, I don't know how anyone with children can possibly be "comfortable".

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:30pm

I think she mentioned somewhere...that her dh makes more than 37K now.

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:30pm
No deductible and 100% coverage with vision and dental? At that price? Which provider, may I ask?
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:32pm
It's a debate board - you're supposed to argue for the sake of arguing.

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