WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am

Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"

Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.

I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.

Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.

Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.

Sabina

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:17pm
I just cannot believe any person would value having a SAHP more highly than living in a good school district or living near family.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:19pm

Thanks for those suggestions, but I'll keep my milk mustache. . .


broccoli -

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:20pm
Well, I have no car payment and my house is 1/3 mortgage, 2/3 equity.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:22pm
Then the actual selling of the house was only one part of the trauma. If none of the rest of that stuff was going on and it was a simple decision agreed upon by both of your parents then it may not have been traumatic. What made it tramatic was the combination of everything.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:22pm
Incorrect. If either my DH or I die, the remaining 3 family members will suffer not one iota -- financially.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:28pm
Having a SAHP as

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:31pm

rofl


I like to keep my milk too. And my kids love milk. But it *is* possible ... which was my only point.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:31pm
You know, TM, we so rarely share a common viewpoint, but you seem to understand a lot of mine in this thread. Just wanted to say I note it and will file it away for future reference ;-)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:34pm
Of course I had disappointment and heartache.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:41pm
Well, there are things I don't understand about you either. You're close to your dad - let him babysit your kids.

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