WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
WOH/Kids/Feminism: WDYT?
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:06am

Okay, let's debate something else. One morning a few months ago, I was crabby to DH about having to get ready for work. DH said, "Well, if you don't want to go to work, quit!"

Later that day, I told him I was just venting, and then I told him some of the reasons I really do like WOH. One reason was something to the effect that I wanted to WOH as part of at-home feminism for our DD's. He said he had no idea what I was talking about.

I thought about it some and decided that although this is a heartfelt idea for me, it's still fuzzy. I suppose I meant that I want to show my DDs how to live independently of a man, in the sense of income, ability to make one's way in the world, and so on, even if they choose marriage & kids. My feelings of pride in my own mom, who was a WOH mom, come into it, too.

Caution: I don't mean in any way to suggest anything the least bit negative about SAH moms. That's not what this is about. Nor do I mean to suggest that anyone has to WOH to teach their kids feminist or gender neutral values. That's not what this is about, either.

Do you think there's any value in WOH as part of raising kids? Please help me clarify my thinking.

Sabina

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:07am
$4800 a year is totally insufficient as retirement savings.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:14am
Are you looking at the time tradeoff from your standpoint, as the family member not actually spending the 10 hours a week commuting, or from your DH's viewpoint of the life his family can lead while he's spending those 10 hours a week commuting?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:17am

On the worst day of traffic (and one in which I miss all THREE stoplights), my commute is 16 minutes.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:25am

Yes, I have anger and resentment against my father for various things.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:26am
Salt and sand debris? What do you mean, "plug it in"?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:28am
The trauma of selling the house and moving was a pain separate and distinct from the relationship ending.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:30am

Alcohol and gourmet prepared foods.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:32am
You forgot -- a board hottie who just posted her picture for all of her friends here for the first time!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:33am
Hey!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 10:35am
The same kind!

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