WOHM do nothing

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WOHM do nothing
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Fri, 10-12-2007 - 2:31pm
hello!! ive been reading some posts and some threads and im getting a lil upset here. the way a lot of these threads are worded, it sounds as if the moms that work do nothing at home. we just drop our kids off at daycare and la la la-pick them up after working our jobs...and go home, go to bed and do it all over again the next morning. we dont do house work, we dont have to care for our kids when they are sick, we dont have to feed them at all-all we do is work outside the home, bring in a paycheck and shove or kids off on a daycare provider. i know im going to get a ton of ticked off responses and i know that none of the people on here mean to offend anyone, but you CAN do both. I am a full time mom-i get my kids up in the morning, i feed them breakfast, i get my child to school, i take care of the house work, the errands, i pay some bills, i feed my youngest lunch, i get a few minutes of me time on the computer (sometimes)-or sometimes i volunteer at my dds school or i play a game with them or i play with them outside or i do something with them-then at 2:30, my hubby comes home from work and its "his" turn-he feeds them dinner and gives them a bath...sometimes he gets them to bed some times its a joint effort because i get home early enough. but then when i get home, i straighten up the house, make sure homework was done and put up some place "safe", i might do a few other things before bed...then get up and do it all over again. and while we have worked out our shifts so that we can both be home when the other is not-even when i was working different shifts and used a babysitter-i STILL did all that kind of stuff. i still took care of the housework, i still cooked for my kids and myself when i was home, i still ran errands, i still went places and played with them. i am a full time mom who happens to work outside the home 32-40 hours a week. i like my job, i like the adult interaction, i HAVE to work, we need my money-but im a mom first and foremost. my kids come first-then my hubby-then my job. just because we bring home a paycheck, we dont just sit on the fact that "i work so im not a full time mom..."we are working MOMS-moms being the operative word-we work, we raise our kids and thats that. i dont mean to offend anyone-but i know i probably did. i just wanted to state my opinion and let the world know that in spite of my job, i am a full time mom to my kids and if anyone thinks the opposite, then in my eyes, theyre wrong. plain and simple.
JOANNE
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 08-14-2007
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 2:36pm

<<the way a lot of these threads are worded, it sounds as if the moms that work do nothing at home. >>


Really? are we reading the same board? I haven't seen a lot of posts like that.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 2:40pm
I like to call myself a working person who just happens to be a mom. Being a mom doesn't define me -- it's part of who I am but it sure as heck isn't the first thing on the list.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 3:10pm
It's funny, I am a wohm and I have yet to interpret any of these threads that way.

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In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 3:11pm

Really? are we reading the same board? I haven't seen a lot of posts like that.


I think she is referring to those that say that the daycares are raising the kids.





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Registered: 08-14-2007
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 3:15pm
Yeah? so? There's still not a lot of those posts. The ones that there are have been posted by 2-3 posters.
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Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 3:32pm
Some of the more uninformed militant SAHMs do assume that WOHMs outsource practically everything because we're so exhausted from our godless heathen pursuit of material wealth, but I don't see it as being a widely-held opinion.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 3:39pm

No, we just got a run of hostile sahms.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 4:45pm

I don't know which posts you are reading, but as a full time WOHM I know I'm also a full time mom. I have all the responsibilities of a kick arse career, and all the responsibilities of being a parent.
Its funny isnt it? No one refers to working dads as "part time fathers?"
Sexism, pure and simple.


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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 9:22pm

It's funny, I am a wohm and I have yet to interpret any of these threads that way. All I am getting from these threads is that I ship my children off to be raised by strangers and I eat out everynight because we are too busy to cook

hello!! this is basically what i was getting at-that all we working moms worry about is the money and our jobs-that we dont have time or energy to do anything else. i got that feeling from a lot of the posts that i read-that we just ship our kids off and dont cook and dont clean...and dont take care of our kids when they are sick or spend quality time with them or whatever cuz we are too busy working. maybe a lot of people didnt get the same feeling from the posts, but i did. its like we dont care as much about our kids cuz we work outside the home and arent able to stay home 24/7 with our families (or dont want to stay home. in my case, its a combo of both)...
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Registered: 11-08-2006
In reply to: jhbear419
Fri, 10-12-2007 - 10:41pm

i keep trying to sell my children, but nobody wants them.

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