WOHM- How do you have enough time?

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WOHM- How do you have enough time?
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 11:19pm

I went back to work for about 2 months when my son was 4 months old. I would get up at 6 and get ready. Get him up at 7 and get him ready.

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Fri, 09-25-2009 - 7:13pm

Plan, organize, set priorities and in my case- limit TV time (unless we are folding clothes).

I am by myself with the girls- while DH is away at the moment (Navy).

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Tue, 10-20-2009 - 5:20pm

We hired a housecleaner twice a month, and accepted that we couldn't possibly keep up enough to live in a place suitable to be photographed for House Beautiful.

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Sat, 10-24-2009 - 11:28am
you cant fit 12 hours into 3, but you dont have to.
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Mon, 10-26-2009 - 10:44pm

Coming into this late, and you've probably gotten some of this advice already.

1. Give up on getting everything done (I hired a housecleaner).
2. Cook on the weekends, eat leftovers during the week.
3. Work part time or stagger your work hours (I've done both). It's well known at both of my jobs that my spouse does drop off, and I do pick up. So I gotta leave at 3 or 4 pm. Period. I have friends who do both drop off and pickup. It's brutal, especially if you are trying to work full time.
4. "It's not fair for other people to pick up the slack". Get over that. I spent 5 months sick as a dog (went to work anyway) when I was working full time and nursing and pumping. Now, I haven't been sick in a year and a half. Don't drive yourself crazy worrying about other people (I leave at 4 every day, but I also am more willing to come in on Sunday to get a few things done as necessary.) Do your best. I've DONE my time. I've worked the 60-70 hour weeks, the weekends, etc. I'm not in a position to do that right now.
5. You HAVE to have a spouse who does half. I cook and grocery shop. Spouse does dishes and ALLLL the laundry.

Still, it's a delicate balance. Right now we're slammed, and I'm working 45 hours a week, and it sucks. I hate it. Luckily my 3 year can "Help" me make dinner, keeps him occupied (he shreds cheese and spins lettuce mostly).

My schedule now:
Up at 5.
Gym 5:30 to 6:30. Shower 6:30 to 6:45. Commute 6:45 to 7. At my desk at 7, reading email, drinking tea, eating breakfast.
Lunch break is about 1/2 hour, though some days I go for a 30 min walk, and I end up with a full hour.
Leave at 4 pm.
Pick up child at 4:20 pm (but as late as 5 on a bad day).
Cook dinner (6:30pm, spouse gets home at 6), color, farmer's market or grocery shopping sometimes, depending on day of the week.
Pack lunches, dishes, read books, bedtime (8 though he's pushing it to 9).
In bed at 9 (me)

That's 2 days/week. Other 2 days spouse goes to the gym, and I "sleep in" until 5:45 am. I usually am awake at 5 anyway, and I just lie in bed. Snuggle if my son comes in at 5 (usually he wakes up, comes in, and sleeps until 6:30). Spouse comes home at 6:45 and I head to work.

My son gets dropped off at about 8:15 am at preschool.

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Tue, 10-27-2009 - 3:07pm
I meant to say . . . Welcome back! I remember you as an old poster from quite awhile ago. How long have you been posting again? How's things going?
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Wed, 10-28-2009 - 1:19pm

Mind if I add one other tip to your list?

In order to save time and frustration in the mornings, every weekend I get together 5 work outfits for me - even underwear and accessories -

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Wed, 10-28-2009 - 1:27pm
I love the outfit packets for the kid. That is a brilliant idea.
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Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 10-28-2009 - 1:47pm

I so cannot do that.

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Wed, 10-28-2009 - 2:05pm

I'm impressed!

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Wed, 10-28-2009 - 2:10pm

But what if one pair of pants can go with 8 shirts? Or a shirt can go with 4 pants, two skirts, and jeans?

I have my closet organized pretty well, but not by "outfits".