WOHM's who say they have to work

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WOHM's who say they have to work
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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 4:17pm

For those of you that WOH and say you have to do it to make ends meet. Do you really do it to make ends meet or do you do it cause you want to keep up a certain lifestyle? Do you know how to live with out debt or without having to keep up with the joneses?


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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:13am

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Wouldn't you agree that there is such a thing as too much daycare? I don't believe I have ever said anything on the subject as anything being appropriate when it comes to daycare hours. How much DC do you think is no longer a good thing? To be honest I would think that in most circumstances a child in daycare 60+ hours a week would be excessive.

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OH OH OH OH!!! Another one of your leaps...add it to that list I have posted for you. No the baby that I care for isn't in DC too many hours. I have her about 45 hours per week. I don't belive for once that I have said she loves me more than her parent so why did you lie about my statements?

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I bet you are confused. You continually make false statements about me, and instead of reading what I write you are interpreting what I write WRONG. Please show me any post of mine that says that I don't approve of dc running, 40, 50, 60 hours per week. When you do then we will chat...other than that your posts are filled with nothing but LIES about my statements.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:14am
Well, a good long leap (such as one about teachers and being the ones who are *raising* their students, or one about a dad who's late for pickup losing out in the competition for his kids' affections) always deserves another.

Sabina


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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:15am
You had better be thankful that men like calimom's husband are willing to do that job. Otherwise your statement would be incorrect, and it would be mandatory. Low blow.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:16am
Again I believe I have stated that it is just an observation. However I think I also stated that he has shown up late on these very days as well. Something I had to address with him about showing up at 5:10. Something I had to make sure he was aware that he needed to be on time and not late more than once.
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Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:17am

Or how about us. We drive 10 yo, paid for cars, rent, but our girls had designer prom gowns, wedding gown, etc. And I have worn desginer clothing to work.

Chris

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:18am
I prefer chocolate over vanilla. I don't love either. You don't know the difference between she prefers me over she doesn't love her parent? Really? Oh yeah...another leap.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:19am
My point was that I find it odd. It is something that I as a parent would NOT do, nor want my DH to do.
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Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:22am

My ex is military. . .I was a proud military wife for 15 years. . .PNJs statement wasn't a low blow. It is a fact of military life.

Calimom can't have it both ways. . .she' can't criticize WOHMs for the time they are way from their kids and expect to keep her husband's deployed status out of the fray.

Actually, from a research standpoint, research on children with military parents had found that the way the non-deployed parent handles the deployment has a greater impact on the children than the deployment itself. So, if kids can handle deployments without needing major therapy, why can't they handle WOHMs?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:23am
It wouldn't be a voluntary force if men and women like her DH didn't step up and do it. While she may have a point doesn't mean her point was appropriate. I seen others here lose it when another poster here made a point when they were speaking of infertility issues. Everyone here was up in arms about that one. Sorry but I find what she said completely rude and to be a low blow.
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Registered: 06-30-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 9:24am

To be honest, I just wouldn't generalize in any way about how much dc is too much dc because it really *all depends*.

I've asked before, but I'll ask again: Just why did you even bring up that baby in the first place?

Obviously, you've just proven my point by admitting you think 60 hours of dc per week is too much dc. Not that you hadn't already, several times over. How about 50? Would 50 meet with your approval? Or would you start looking out for those troubling indications that *you* might be raising that child and not his parents, or that the child *prefers* you over his parents, or some other disastrous outcome of too much dc?

Sabina


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