WOHM's who say they have to work

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WOHM's who say they have to work
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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 4:17pm

For those of you that WOH and say you have to do it to make ends meet. Do you really do it to make ends meet or do you do it cause you want to keep up a certain lifestyle? Do you know how to live with out debt or without having to keep up with the joneses?


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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:01am

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Well considering there are an endless amount of parenting choices I don't think I could possibly be able to answer this question. Why would you even ask this anyway?

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Do I need to define odd? Odd means that it is different than what I think is ordinary. I find things many people do odd. I am sure people find things I do odd. It isn't about good, bad, approve disapprove....it is just what I find odd.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:03am
Because men and women joining the military prior to September '01 had no idea they might be deployed?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:05am

"Ordinary" to me is a neighborhood full of parents with advanced, post college degrees, many of whom have dual WOHP households.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:08am

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Read further. That the parents are utilizing every last minute of the facilities opening hours.

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Nope...missed the point. Didn't gotcha.

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You asked me about why I mentioned something was odd. My mistake, I thought that is what you were asking. If you continue to read the thread you will see that when that topic was brought up in was in response to someone asking me about it.

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:10am
Being in the military IS a choice. And anyone entering the military KNOWS they'll have a high probability of deployment. If not deployment then schools, TDY, etc. And with the Navy, there is always shiptime.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:10am

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My uncle was in the military and he was never deployed. My DH works with 3 National Guardsmen..none have been deployed.

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That wouldnt be a moot point. This may be his career.

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What makes you think that he wasn't in the Navy/Marines before children?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:12am
Lots of people have never been deployed that have been in the military. Doesn't change my statement. Joining the military is voluntary...being deployed isn't.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:13am
You are exactly right. What is wrong with that?
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:23am

FTR, a deployment is any absence from ones home base. So I doubt seriously that your uncle was in the military and NEVER deployed. For example, when my ex was sent to Ft. Irwin, CA for 4 weeks from Ft. Riley, KS, THAT was a deployment. It was a short term deployment, but a deployment nonetheless.

And if her husband was in the service before kids, then he knew when he had those kids with her that he'd spend lots of time away from them.

Look. . .no one has said that military parents are inherently bad parents. Heck, I haven't even said that my kids have been negatively effected by their father's deployments and he's been gone 41 out of the last 61 months (or 2/3 of the time). . .but the fact remains that she made statements against WOHMs when those moms STILL see their kids more than her husband sees his at times. If he can be deployed without it negatively effecting HIS kids, why can't I work without it negatively effecting mine?

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Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:24am

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Yes it does carry a risk, which is why one prepares for that risk with insurance, it's a known risk.

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