WOHM's who say they have to work

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WOHM's who say they have to work
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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 4:17pm

For those of you that WOH and say you have to do it to make ends meet. Do you really do it to make ends meet or do you do it cause you want to keep up a certain lifestyle? Do you know how to live with out debt or without having to keep up with the joneses?


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:47am

It's a judgement.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:50am

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No, and I have stated that I care for this child about 45 hours per week.

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I thought so too. That is why I am wondering why you reached the conclusion you did. Did you happen to forget that I am a working parent?

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http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-pssahwoh&msg=17235.144&x=y Here is part of that thread. Filter through this one. It will make sense. I am not going to filter through anymore of these threads. This is getting to be a big one and it takes too much time.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:52am
I was comparing the appropriateness of the two situations. Not that one was a choice and the other wasn't. Again doesn't change what I said. Being deployed isn't a choice.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:53am
Judgements can mean a lot of things. What exactly do you mean by judgement? I prefer the term observation.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:56am

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Yes.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:58am

But deployment is a DIRECT consequence of the CHOICE to join the military or to remain in a military career field.

Infertility isn't a choice, nor is it the direct consequence of a choice.

THAT's why the appropriateness of the situations you mentioned aren't even similar. It really is a shame that your blinders are on so narrowly that you can't see that they aren't similar.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 12:04pm

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Yes, that's true.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 12:08pm

<<Again doesn't change what I said. Being deployed isn't a choice.>>


Let me ask you this....if one takes a job, one chooses a job, aren't they choosing the entire job?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 12:22pm

You know what? You've got to give this guy a break.

You are talking about a 3 month old -- a newborn. He's probably never been around a newborn in his life. He's probably nervous and unsure how to comfort her. He's probably exhausted. If she's like many young babies, she probably gets fussy in the late afternoon, early evening. He might be afraid of spending those hours alone with her. He might just need a break.

You judging him, talking negatively about him to his wife, and implying by your mannerisms if not your words that his DD "prefers" you isn't going to help anything. Your job is to help him get comfortable -- show him how she is coming out of the newborn stage and likes to play, tell him about fun things she likes to do, show him things you do to make her laugh or make her comfortable.

That is your role -- not to judge, but to help. If you can't do that, perhaps you should let this family know that they need a new childcare provider.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 12:28pm

A judgment is a declaration of right and wrong.

PumpkinAngel

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