WOHP's Alone Time w/ Kids

Avatar for mommy2amani
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
WOHP's Alone Time w/ Kids
242
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 9:55am

The board is slow, so I'm going to throw something out.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2007
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 7:02pm

In the last 4 years I have seen more and more dads at Ballet or gymnatics or such.


Now, I see an equal split of dads to mums at these afterschool activities. My dad had to do that long before it was the "right thing to do" and he was often let out of the group of mums.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2010
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 7:03pm
That's my thoughts.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2010
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 7:36pm

I find that the Moms tend to do 99%.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2010
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 7:39pm
What does that mean, I don't do field trips?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 7:58pm

Well, I pulled my more than my weight wrt to schedules as both dh and I travel occasionally. I'll be gone for the next 10 days and when I come back, dh will be gone for the following 10 days. We'll have Mother's Day together as a family.

With track practice 5 afternoons a week, little league 4 nights a week and soccer 2 times a week, the sole parent is logistically challenged by sports alone, though there are other events happening too. With the help of my extended family and friends, we'll muddle through the next 3 weeks, but it certainly isn't anyway we like to operate on a day-to-day basis.

I suppose I could have my children do less, or pick activities that take less time, but they love the excurs they've picked. I was sad that ds2 dropped scouts and dd dropped lacrosse, but they get to choose the activities they want to participate in, we're just the chauffeurs, spectators, and cheerleaders for them.

Avatar for mom34101
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:00pm
Agreed. The working spouse still has the same amount of time to spend in "family time" or "alone time." The coaching/driving to sports time is freed up to do other things, whether the family desires that to be alone time or additional family time. It's up to the parent (and the family) how to spend that time.
Avatar for mom34101
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:02pm
Agreed. I don't see why alone time requires scheduling (or one parent needing to work to "create" alone time). If you want alone time, you can work in the garden together, shoot baskets, take a walk, go to the store, read a book together, do homework together, whatever.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:15pm
Even Boys Scouts? I went to Boyscout camp last summer, One in twenty adults was a Mom, the rest were Dads.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:24pm

Do you live in a time warp?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:29pm

FYI, time a parent just might have in getting a child somwhere that doesn't have to wait until dad gets home does not mean parent is picking activities for them.


happy mother's day.




Edited 4/27/2010 8:31 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

Pages