To work or Stay at home

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Registered: 08-03-2007
To work or Stay at home
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Fri, 03-28-2008 - 2:22pm

Hi everyone,


I am 26 years old and pregnant with my first child.

~Krissy~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:01pm
I did the staying home thing the first few months, then I got a PT sitter and started working again, a little at least. My advice would be to go back to work and see how that feels. Give it 6 months or a year, then see if you want to quit. My kid is a teen now, and I think kids actually need you more during the middle school years than when they are babies and preschoolers. If you work when they are small, you can build up seniority, which translates into flexibility when your kids are bigger and may need more from you.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:08pm
what I found was that by putting inmy time full steam when Liza was a baby I built up the seniority and trust and flexibility to be more available as she got older - I still work full time (I went back when she was just shy of 4 months old and she's almost 9 years old now) and now I can stay home on snow days and sick days and go to school events without missing a beat b/c i put in my time during her infancy and toddler hood when frankly she really didn't even realize I was gone half the time LOL (she was in a daycare center for five years then went right ti kindergarten and grade school)
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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:14pm

FMLA should mean that you can take a maternity leave, right?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:16pm
I'd say get childcare researched and locked in with a deposit, so you have a true opportunity to return to work.

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Registered: 08-03-2007
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:20pm
I wish that were an option. Unfortunately I don't think my boss would allow that much time. I would get 6 week leave and thats it. I work at a small office though where one person being off makes a difference. I did however think of waiting and seeing how the six weeks go before making a final decision.

~Krissy~

~Krissy~

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:22pm
yes!
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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:23pm
I couldn't remember how long FMLA is - is it 6 weeks or 3 months?
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Registered: 08-03-2007
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:26pm
Yep I am in Michigan. I think it typically is 6 weeks. At least that is what most of my friends got when they took it however I think there are some employers out there who will give more time. Mine isn't one of them though lol.

~Krissy~

~Krissy~

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:26pm
Small companies don't have to adhere to the stipulations in FMLA.
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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 03-28-2008 - 3:28pm
You'd better check what you're entitled to because it's not up to your employer (unless they're exempt), it's the law.

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