work or stay home? that is the question

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2009
work or stay home? that is the question
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Thu, 09-10-2009 - 9:45am

I am a stay at home mom of 2 beautiful children.One is 3 and one will be 6 very soon and is in the first grade.for quite a long time i have been torn between staying at home or working and really don't know which way to turn.I sometimes feel that i am not contributing the way that i should and that feeling really gets to me, but at the same time my youngest only has to wait one more year before she is old enough to be accepted into the preschool program that is held in the same school building that my oldest child is in. i have been ridiculed people including certain in laws about my current decision to remain home a little longer. they can say a lot of not so nice things about me(ie:that i'm being lazy and being an unfit parent)neither of which are true because not only do i take care of everyone in my home but i'm teaching my 3 year old too.can someone please give me advice on what i should do?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 10:35am
Are you and your husband in agreement?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 10:41am
Are you depriving your family of basics by staying home?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2009
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 10:49am
no their dad does that and then some i guess i could say that when there is extra to spend he spoils us
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2009
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 10:53am
yes but i do believe that it can be stressful on him sometimes thats what makes me feel kind of guilty but he rather me wait one more year than have to pay for child care or have someone we don't know very well watching them.i think that he too can be torn about this issue sometimes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 10:53am
How many hours a week is he gone?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 10:54am
Well, if you have the means to stay home, and your husband is in agreement with your desire to stay home, then I don't get how it's anyone else's business whether you go to work this year, next year, or never.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2009
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 10:57am
i would say that he works from monday thru friday and every other saturday so about 45 to 50 hours a week.he installs heating/cooling systems
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2009
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 11:08am
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 11:24am

I think you and your DH are the best people to determine what is best for *your* family. If both of you are in agreement and you children are happy and healthy, keep on truckin......

Have you had to ask your in-laws for money when things got tight?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 11:26am

i'm sorry to read of the ridicule you get esp from ppl who are supposed to be family.

 

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