work or stay home? that is the question

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Registered: 09-10-2009
work or stay home? that is the question
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Thu, 09-10-2009 - 9:45am

I am a stay at home mom of 2 beautiful children.One is 3 and one will be 6 very soon and is in the first grade.for quite a long time i have been torn between staying at home or working and really don't know which way to turn.I sometimes feel that i am not contributing the way that i should and that feeling really gets to me, but at the same time my youngest only has to wait one more year before she is old enough to be accepted into the preschool program that is held in the same school building that my oldest child is in. i have been ridiculed people including certain in laws about my current decision to remain home a little longer. they can say a lot of not so nice things about me(ie:that i'm being lazy and being an unfit parent)neither of which are true because not only do i take care of everyone in my home but i'm teaching my 3 year old too.can someone please give me advice on what i should do?

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 10:43am

You make a good point.


You sound like you are insecure in your decision to stay home. Like others opinions of you weigh heavily with you. You have to find a way to get past that and do what works for you.

I remember when I first left the workforce, my fil was pretty judgemental about it, and it really bothered me.

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Ducky

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Registered: 07-08-2009
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 10:34am
You sound like you are insecure in your decision to stay home. Like others opinions of you weigh heavily with you. You have to find a way to get past that and do what works for you. I work
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Registered: 01-09-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 11:33am

Now I know that I will sound like a twelve year old, but.....


But, but, but....your apology to edg was not b/c you were rude to her, it was b/c she "is the mature one".

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Ducky

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Registered: 03-06-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 11:01am
oh honey I have no stake in this conversation - it takes much more than this to ruffle my feathers...
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 10:13am
maybe i was ,however i have already apologized to Eggs and i think that she is willing to let it go .how about you?
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 09-14-2009 - 4:41pm

She didn't say a thing about "living in sin".

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
Mon, 09-14-2009 - 2:38pm

I think perhaps you were slightly quick to read offense where none was meant.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-10-2009
Mon, 09-14-2009 - 1:38pm
i think that i have already made my apologies to thoes i may have been rude to so why are you trying to beat an already dead horse over the issue?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Mon, 09-14-2009 - 1:13pm
Interestingly enough, you are the ONLY one who has beed rude.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 09-14-2009 - 12:40pm
yes, he was very cute. I am sorry my dd does not have a grandpa anything like him.

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