Working for Lifestyle/Extras

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 5:07pm

additionally, the post that I was responding to was about childcare being an "unnatural" way to raise children. THAT, is a WHOLE load of bull-dookey.

Carole

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 5:33pm
The really funny thing is, that there is more than one "right way" to manage finances.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 6:23pm
I think it depends on the denomination. FOr example, I have only seen LDS boys around here. Nary a girl. However, my cousin's more evangelical christian curch has missions for both sexes.
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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 6:29pm
I'm not sure.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 6:32pm

So what does our Mr. Ramsey recommend for first home buyers?

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 6:41pm
As I said, it's great that you like your school and your children thrive there.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 8:35pm
Girls are welcome to go as well. My oldest dd isn't interested right now. If she does become interested, we will match her savings on the mission as well. Couples also go in their retirement years and sometimes before if they are able to. Also single sisters in retirement age are eligible to go.

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 8:37pm
Of course there is more than one right way to manage finances. I just think DR is the stuff and I advocate 'his' way.

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 8:38pm
Girls do go on their missions too. It's a commandment for boys to go, it is not a commandment for girls.

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 12-16-2006 - 9:36pm

That, I don't get. I would think abiltity grouping would be a very good way to meet the individual needs of all students. By grouping by ability, the teacher can concentrate on what the child needs to be learning instead of trying to teach to a whole class of kids of differing ability and backgrounds.

I really don't get why you think ability grouping runs counter to meeting the needs of all students. IMO, it's best to meet their needs where they are and work on what they need vs. trying to keep a whole class on one level.

From what I can see, this works very well with regard to meeting children's individual learning needs. Being grouped where you need to be is exactly what kids need in order to have their individual needs met.

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