Working for Lifestyle/Extras

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:34pm
If it is mainly a trust issue for you, I honestly do not understand why your kid is in school.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:36pm
Who gets to decide what an ok vaction is and what a expensive vacation is?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-17-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:41pm

"If it is mainly a trust issue for you, I honestly do not understand why your kid is in school."

Really now. That is a pretty ridiculous statement.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-17-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:43pm
These replies are getting more and more nasty. Maybe someone had a bad day at work?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-17-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:48pm
Honestly- what kind ridiculous reply is that? I can't help but notice how nasty these replies are becoming. If I wanted to homeschool my child I would. This is not the board, nor the thread for that issue.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:57pm

You do not have to say it three times. It is a reasonable question, given what you have posted. If you have this trust issue, how do you make the leap of faith that allows you to send your kid to school? It is a serious question.

I had a fine day, thank you. I did not work today, only stopped by to check on something for 15 minutes. The rest of the day, I was in class, had lunch with dh and a business associate, took dd to the orthodontist, came home and cooked dinner for her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:58pm
So, your plan is to

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 8:01pm

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Yes, it is.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-31-2005
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 8:13pm

Absolutely. I'll probably never spin through 100 mysteries a summer again, not for many, many years. And I'm okay with not watching TV much anymore. My main hobbies, my studies and jogging, I haven't had to scale back on at all.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 8:17pm
How can you study without childcare? or jog for that matter?

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