Working for Lifestyle/Extras

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Working for Lifestyle/Extras
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Ladies :)

This is my first time on this debate board and I have been dying to jump into some of the topics, but I feel as though they are sooooo long (one in particular is over 1000 replies, yikes!) that starting my own specific one might work out better.

Anyhow, a recurring theme here seems to be what Moms should and shouldn't be going to work for. It seems some are of the opinion that is OK for Mom to work if she must to pay her bills but NOT if its to afford a nice car, house, good neighborhood. This is considered keeping up with the Johnses (who are they???) and thats bad.

Well, I want to know what in the heck is wrong with a women working to have nice things? I don't mean working and leaving baby in child care 16 hours a day, everyday...thats pretty extreme.

I enjoyed a certain lifestyle before having a child, should I have downsized that lifestyle once baby came so I didn't have to work? What about me *wanting* to maintain a certain lifestyle for myself, my husband, and my child makes me a (a) workaholic or (b) striving to keep up with the Joneses?

Don't some people (like myself) simply enjoy living in a nice place with nice things and want their children to have the same experience?

So please, anyone who thinks a women is wrong for WOH if she is not doing so to financially survive but does it to maintain a certain lifestyle...whats wrong with this?

Thanks all :)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 2:30pm

Why?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 2:32pm

It's a reasonable conclusion based on the posts.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 2:35pm

Oh man....the opinons.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-01-2004
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 2:39pm

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I totally agree. But as a parent, how do you make that system work for you child that is obviously failing many children in *your* area. I plan to supplement my daughter's education but How do you keep from beng one of those parents that hound their kids day in day out - flashcards and all.


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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 2:41pm

i think standards are a given regardless of education method,though and asians are always going to soar because of their culture..it's fascinating i suppose but every may,our local newspaper publishes photographs of all the valedictorians in our district. they're MOSTLY ALL asian.

texas standard testing is a mandated assessment that requires a passing grade to get promoted to the following grade level...i have my 3rd grader private tutored because it's so critical she passes and i want her doing well. i think our school and district do quite well because we care,too. i don't believe a 70% standard rating is all a school's fault,either.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 2:51pm

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I don't know, I honestly haven't done a study on different types of flash cards.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 2:55pm

<<If you think your children don't want and need you and your dh just as much, if not more than you need and want them, you may want to ask them.>>


Well since I don't think that (nor did I state that in that post), I guess I don't have to ask them anything.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 2:57pm

You said it much better than I.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:09pm

I choose that path as well, again based on my childhood.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:09pm

why the assumption of homeschool to her post you linked?

i don't believe it's a school's job to *raise* a child. in 6 months,it'll be all about the summer camps (we) sign our children up for,too. nope,they don't *raise* either. :/

 

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